Thursday, November 06, 2008

How well does your child sleep?

The brat has always been a light sleeper, plus he has always had an adenoid issue. In fact during some really bad attacks, the combined snoring of the brat and the husband is enough to rattle window panes. Of course I am being modest and not included mine own decibels into this equation but then I'm not the one who hears me snore.
Plus there is always so much more to do with oneself that lie down and go to sleep, so we have had instances when the lights are switched off, Pappa Bear and Mamma Bear haul their lard into the bed, the blankets pulled over them and gentle snores emanating from both while Baby Bear continues to dash his cars in mock races in the vicinity of their feet. Sadly, the commercial call centre building just opposite ours ensures that even with the curtains closed and the lights off, there is enough light to have a mock F1 championship on the bedspread with Mamma and Pappa being the uphill terrain.
Finally, Pappa will start up with a fright as one errant driver skids and crash lands into his nostril and bark the brat into sleeping. And the brat will lie down reluctantly, toss and turn, mutter dark things, insist on hand under head, dispose of hand under head, want to be held, decide he doesnt want to be held, toss and turn and finally, Mamma drops of to sleep muttering dark things and has no clue as to when the brat if ever, drops off.
And yes, he is the acknowledged runt of his class. Which is why this article scared the night pants off me. Yes he does sleep less than he requires. On a very good day he sleeps at 10.30 pm and needs to be up by 7.30 am to leave for school by 8 am. It helps that school is a minute away. We're normally the ones scampering in as the bell rings every single day.
On some days he will sleep in the afternoon for a good three to four hours. I let him sleep in, despite the fact that he will oversleep playing time, because he does get such little of good deep sleep that any sleep is good for him.
His sleeping habits are a bit better now. He sleeps. There were phases when I have sat up all night with my eyes like saucers following the brat bouncing off the walls on hyperoverdrive, with him just refusing to go to sleep.
And he does have a wind down routine. Come up from play, do his homework and leedle padhai. Eat his food. Play rough tumble with the pater. Drink his milk and lights off. Sometimes, if mamma's eyes are open, she will read him a story which he will punctuate with inane questions which all lead back inexonerably to Batman, Superman, Spiderman and Krishman. Yup. The latest is Krishman. At which point Mamma will give up and combine Grimms Fairy Tales and Marvel comic characters into a mish mash of plots that holds the attention till the small yawns start. From Mamma. The brat is still google eyed. And for all ye thinking sugar overdose, no, he has no chocolates and no sweet and no colas and no Lays or junk food. Only two spoons of sugar day in his two cups of milk.
Any words of wisdom to get this child to sleep better? Mamma's tired of being Mrs Raccoon. And she would so like to see the brat not being the current 'Chottu' of the bunch.

7 opinions:

Mama - Mia said...

why would you get trolls??!! weird! anyhoo!

since I am no where close to the situ you are in, i really have no pearls of wisdom. you checked with his doc?

all the best Kiran and hope you find a solution soon!

meanwhile Cubby is a decent sleeper. doesnt sleep too early but sleeps about 9hrs straight and another few jrs of napping during the day. but then he si a lot younger than Krish!

hugs

abha

wordjunkie said...

Oh God, that article has me quaking in my boots too. My Imp is Krish with pigtails. Can't imagine her having slept 12 hrs straight ever!

Rohini said...

But 10.30 to 7.30 is already 9 hours na? And then the naps. So that must put his average daily sleep well within the 10-12 hours range recommended by the linked article...

On another note, you get his awake, dressed an fed in half an hour? How??? I struggle with triple that time at my disposal...

Anonymous said...

Kiran,

Try giving him a warm bath/shower at night before bed. It usually soothes kids, followed by a book and warm milk. I sometimes massage my daughter's legs when she is too tired to sleep after running all around all day.

Rashmi.

Anonymous said...

Kiran,

assuming the adenoids have been ruled out as a source of sleep trouble, here are some options prescribed by pediatricians here in the US:

- make sure the pre-bed activity is not a rough/active one. So in your case, you may need to move the playing with dad to an earlier time slot.
- hot bath before bed. (we do this, and don't bathe in the mornings before school - saves a lot of time)
- milk before bed. If he has only two cups a day, make the second cup just before bed. No sugar in the milk. OK, this one is probably cultural, because my parents also freak out at it - but peds here recommend milk minus sugar for small kids, and the kids are very used to it now, though they do drink the occasional bournvita or other malted drink.
- dinner by 7:00 or so.
- a bedtime routine that ensures winding down - reading in our case, with music. We're classical music fans, so have always played carnatic music or slokas for the kids at bedtime.
- a DARK bedroom, where no other activity but lying down can be performed. Since you said you have light coming in from outside, can you invest in blackout shades?
- Maybe a bed of his own - in our case, it helped our daughter - she started sleeping much better once she had her own bed - she remains a restless sleeper, but that is her style - likes to shift around, change pillows etc.
- a soft toy or other cuddly object to use as a soothing object.

Here, a typical 5 year old's bedtime varies from 7:30 pm to 8:30 pm - ours were on the later end of the scale at 8:30 at that time (we didn't need to be in school until 9 am, so it was Ok for us). Now at ages 6 and 8, our evening routine is:
home from school at 3:10, play until 4:00 or so. Snacks, milk. Homework, piano practice (as applicable), outside activity (we have at least one a day), bath, prayers, dinner. After dinner they usually read or watch a game on TV (son), if one is on, or work on any projects for school etc. Bedtime cleanup starts at 8:10 or so, and they're usually in bed by 8:30. Son falls asleep immediately, daughter usually spends a few minutes cuddling her stuffed dog and then falls asleep.
They're up at 6:30, need to leave for school at 7:30.
They stopped daytime naps at 3 years, when they started full day montessori.

HTH,

M

karmickids said...

Abha: Anyway, a few days of comment moderation and they havent appeared since. Krish would sleep in the afternoon till a few months ago. He's just stopped recently. Thats why its freaking me out.

Wordjunkie: Be afraid. Be very afraid. LOL.

Ro: He rarely naps in the afternoon, and rarely goes off to sleep before 11.30 and needs to be up by 7.30am. As for getting ready in half an hour, we work as a team, Pappa and I, so it does happen.

Rashmi: The milk I do, the hot bath I must try. Massaging his legs too.

M: THat was lovely. Thank you for the detailed tips. We do have a bedtime routine and milk before bed. I am the soft toy. But we cant have him another bed because there is no space, and the other bedrooms are all occupied. So thats something we have to deal with. Yes, playtime with Pappa has been replaced by homework time with Pappa so thats more calm and gets the homework done faster. We cant really pull the shades because of the lovely breeze we get from the sea which the hubby loves, will try and convince him about that. A bath before bed? I must try that.

Goofy Mumma said...

Kiran, A bath before bed really helps. It really works on my son, he gets drowsy after a bath. Darkness and peace are important factors too. Also try a light relaxing massage and then a bath, supposed to be a sleep inducer in kids.

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